If you just started swinging, soft swingers will surely be the best playmates for you. It will not be hard to find soft swingers in swinging clubs or parties. Soft swing is when two couples are intimate with their own partner, usually in the same room. There are also open swingers and close swingers, both separated from each other from the venue in which the commit sexual acts. If you like swinging with playmates in the same room with other swingers, you are close swinger — and vice versa.

Differentiating swingers also involves seeing the common pattern of swinging. Girl on girl will allow girls to get together and play while their husbands watch from the sideline or engage on their partner. Although it is not very common, you can also find man on men in some circumstances; the wife gets to watch while it happens. Threesomes, whether it is male-female-male or female-male-female, are also very common. If you are not comfortable with sexual penetration with other people, you can always soft swap; you can have oral sex with another playmate and return to your spouse for full intimacy.

No matter what kind of swinging you prefer, make sure both you and your spouse are fully comfortable with it. Swinging is about mutual pleasure, and both of you should enjoy the experience at pretty much the same level. Once you can do this, you will see your relationship strengthen and you will have a beter love life with your spouse.