Well firstly you don’t have to worry too much, there are lots of sites out there that can help you know all you need to know for your first time experinces.

The Swinger Forum is a great place to start – its packed full of advice articles and helpful members to give you all the information that you need to start with.

Most importantly you need to know that ‘no’ means ‘no’. No ifs but or maybe’s. It means no. Secondly you leave with the person that you went with. Keep those 2 in mind and you’ll be golden

When you visit an online adult site offering access to members’ profiles, you need to make sure that the site you are visiting is offering their services for a fee. I hate to say this, but free swinger sites usually get you nowhere — if any of you find a good and free swinger site, please do let me know. Premium sites offer better infrastructure and media to help you find swinging partners no matter where you live. You can also place your own personal ads and have other swingers find you. Of course, you need to take everything one step at a time to make sure you are fully comfortable with the person before engaging more serious swinging activities. In order to do that, you can trade messages, send each other pictures and even schedule a meet over lunch to sit down and get to know each other really well.

Meeting swingers online is really not that hard at all, no matter where you live. You will be able to do this from the comfort of your house, and you will surely find swinging partners faster than you can imagine. Oh, and do you know that browsing through profiles with your spouse is considered part of the swinging excitements on its own? You can also find some great swingers stories on the various swinger sites out there also.

Swinging has been a social issue for quite some time indeed. Thanks to the growing number of swingers willing to openly talk about this lifestyle, followed by swinging clubs and parties appearing in almost every part of the world, swinging can be generally accepted as a lifestyle enjoyed by many people. Cons are still there, but they exist in almost every other cultural aspect and they are nothing to be worried about. In fact, swinging has been quite popular the past several years. More swinger sites and communities are growing, and people are starting to feel secure about swinging and talking openly about it. You must notice how easy it is to find information and resources about swinging as well as finding partners through personal ads or event invitation these days; these are clear signs that the lifestyle is growing towards maturity and it is accepted by more people than before.

No matter what society think about swinging, I always think that you should make decisions based on what works for you. If you think you will enjoy swinging very much — plus your spouse supports you on that thought — then you should simply go for it and embrace the lifestyle. Other people will understand your decision completely.

First of all, look nice and clean. There may be dress codes supplied by the party’s host, so make sure you understand them correctly and dress accordingly. Cleanliness or personal hygiene is something you must keep at the highest level whenever you are attending private parties. There are also on premise and off premise private parties; make sure you understand the kind of party you are attending and feel totally comfortable with the expected environment. There is no doubt that you will meet several familiar faces if you are invited to private parties — most invitations come from recommendations from other swingers — so you don’t have to worry about not being able to blend in to the crowd. Even if you do see new faces, they will most likely be quite familiar with the lifestyle and they will be friendly as well. Last but not least, make sure you bring something to the party. Bringing a bottle or two of your favorite alcohol drinks will surely show your good attitude towards the host and the party.

If you are considered to be a nice guest, there is no doubt that you will be invited to more private parties in the future. Some parties are nicer than others, but you should maintain nice behavior at all times.

If you just started swinging, soft swingers will surely be the best playmates for you. It will not be hard to find soft swingers in swinging clubs or parties. Soft swing is when two couples are intimate with their own partner, usually in the same room. There are also open swingers and close swingers, both separated from each other from the venue in which the commit sexual acts. If you like swinging with playmates in the same room with other swingers, you are close swinger — and vice versa.

Differentiating swingers also involves seeing the common pattern of swinging. Girl on girl will allow girls to get together and play while their husbands watch from the sideline or engage on their partner. Although it is not very common, you can also find man on men in some circumstances; the wife gets to watch while it happens. Threesomes, whether it is male-female-male or female-male-female, are also very common. If you are not comfortable with sexual penetration with other people, you can always soft swap; you can have oral sex with another playmate and return to your spouse for full intimacy.

No matter what kind of swinging you prefer, make sure both you and your spouse are fully comfortable with it. Swinging is about mutual pleasure, and both of you should enjoy the experience at pretty much the same level. Once you can do this, you will see your relationship strengthen and you will have a beter love life with your spouse.

Several swingers’ clubs require you to bring your own bottles of favorite alcohol or beverages. You can drop them at the entrance or give them to the bartender. It is often considered to be a nice gesture even in non-BYOB clubs, and you will be making friends before you know it. Remember to keep an open mind, especially on on-premise swinging clubs, because there will certainly be emotions when you see people enjoying sexual activities all in the same room. If you are not comfortable with the ambience or the people you meet, you can always politely say so and they will completely understand if you want to leave the party early.

Another good thing to do is be as friendly and as truthful as possible; this may vary for different people. You are dealing with people and you are certainly not there just for the sex, so socialize and meet new friends. You will be glad to hear other swingers’ experiences; it will help you gain insight of this lifestyle.